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Read an interview on the book in the May issue of O Magazine


Joyce is quoted in NYTimes Article, May 2013

"Joyce McFadden, a psychoanalyst and the author of "Your Daughter's Bedroom," said girls today are unprepared to withstand sophisticated efforts by corporations that prey on girls' desire to be popular. "As parents, we're so afraid to talk honestly with our daughters about their sexuality that we end up leaving them out in the cold," she said."

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Check Out the Documentary Orgasm, Inc.

Can female desire come from a pharmaceutical company? Check out filmmaker Liz Canner’s documentary, Orgasm, Inc., and see what you think.

The film, which opened last week at Quad Cinema, explores the focus our culture places on pharmaceutical intervention for all that ails us — even on the most intimate and amorphous level: female arousal.


Unless funding big business is what arouses you, you may feel inspired to reevaluate how we view female “sexual dysfunction.”

Meika Loe, author of The Rise of Viagra: How the Little Blue Pill Changed Sex in America, is also a professor at Colgate University. Her course Women, Health, Medicine is shown in the movie, and in Aleta Mayne’s article in the Colgate Connect, Loe speaks about screening the film for her current students:

“The students experienced a dramatic paradigm shift in watching the film and talking with the filmmaker in thinking about how pharmaceutical marketing not only shapes our needs and desires, but also creates a sense of normal — normal womanhood, normal sexuality,” Loe explained. “This generation has grown up with pharmaceutical advertising and really takes it for granted.”

“The documentary is a real wake-up call about the role pharmaceutical companies, the medical world, and media play in issues that are supposed to be of a personal nature,” said Brittani DiMare ’12. “I had no idea the degree to which our bodies, our health, our minds are being manipulated.”

Here’s to an elixir that’s more effective and longstanding. One that has more to do with an earnest respect for authentic female sexuality and desire than generating profits. One that comes from teaching our daughters about sexuality in our homes and in our schools.

In a study published in Gender and Psychoanalysis, Daphne DeMarneffe found that preschool girls were more likely to have been taught the word “penis” than any specific word for their own genitals. And women in my study reveal that many mothers still aren’t teaching their daughters about menstruation; and even if they do, it’s so brief and awkward their daughters say it fosters in them a sense of disconnection from their own bodies.

We can’t expect girls to grow into women who feel entitled to finding and feeling what they desire if we’re not even comfortable talking about these things. Education and support may just be what the doctor should order.

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After treating countless women who felt alone and isolated in experiences that they were unaware many other women were dealing with too, I began to ask what I could do to help them reach out to each other. The result was the launch of the Women’s Realities Study in which I interviewed hundreds of women from ages 18-105, about the most private issues as I sought to understand what events in a woman’s life impact her future happiness and self-confidence. What I found was truly revealing— the theme that most interested them as they explored their identities was how their relationship with their mothers influenced their understanding of themselves as sexual beings throughout their lives.

In my study of 450 women, they reveal that when their mothers conveyed that sexuality was somehow bad, or when they left sexuality out of the dialogue while they were growing up, it set them up to feel alienated from themselves--from their feelings, their instincts and their bodies.  This, in turn, made them lose faith in their mothers' ability to be there for them in the ways they needed, which created distance in the mother- daughter relationship over their lives together.