Book Reviews

 “Psychoanalyst and Huffington Post columnist McFadden offers insight and honesty in a discussion of the healthy ways mothers can help their daughters grow comfortable and knowledgeable about their sexuality. In August 2005, the author launched the Women’s Realities Study, a research project that aimed to take the pulse of modern women by asking open-ended questions about relationships, motherhood and mental health, among others. Her intended goal was to create a companion piece to the classic Our Bodies, Ourselves. Mission accomplished. The author clears away the heavy clouds that overshadow topics many daughters do not learn about from their mothers (and which mothers often dread sharing with their daughters): menstruation, masturbation and sex. For generations, embarrassment, shame and even fear have kept this crucial information from being handed down to daughters. McFadden stresses that mothers must learn to value their own sexuality and to lead by example. This position is one many women may strain to achieve, however, as historically society has pigeonholed women into neatly gift-wrapped boxes with nothing “dirty” showing through the seams. “No matter how sexually alive [a woman] was before, as soon as she becomes a mother, we act as though her erotic life is over,” writes the author. McFadden provides examples of mothers willing to take on and embrace these changes, and how they do so with trust, warmth and often space. There are hurdles to cross and backs to be straightened when it comes to this topic, but daughters need their mothers, and it’s time they heard their voices. An empowering resource for mothers and daughters everywhere.”
—Kirkus Reviews

 “I love my mom. From a very young age, a girl’s sexuality is being shaped through the messages given from her mother, and the actions she sees around her. Each word that is said on the topic of sex, one’s own body, behaviors, and values is all taken in whether moms realize it or not. Your Daughter’s Bedroom is an outstanding book that reflects on these key points in the relationship between mothers and their daughters and the components of sexuality, sex education, and sexual behavior. While reading this book I was overwhelmed by emotions and memories of my past experiences with my own mother. I thought back to the messages I received as a child, the education I was given on sex, and conversation the I had not even given a thought about how important they were until now. I love my mother, cherish our relationship and respect how she raised me, but I believe our relationship, and every mother-daughter relationship, would profit from reading this book. Joyce McFadden did an amazing job writing this book. I had the privilege to talk with Joyce about her career, personal life, and a discussion on her book and she is very wonderful and full of some much knowledge that she is craving to share through her book.”

“Your Daughter’s Bedroom” is one of my favorite books! Growing up, I wish my mother had read this, and I’m so glad I found this and read it. McFadden is a genius in creating a dialogue about these topics that are often overlooked and rarely researched. Through her surveys of women’s sexual experiences, she helps to educate everyday women on how to promote conversations of sexuality with their daughters as well as feel comfortable in their own sexualities. A mother is extremely influential on her daughter’s sexuality and level of comfort with her body. This conversation is so so so important, and every woman, mother, and daughter should read it. With limited research on the topics of masturbation, menstruation, relationships, and sexuality in general, “Your Daughter’s Bedroom” is a great tool to learn. The relationship I had with my mother deeply influenced my body image and sexuality, and I would have turned out very different if she had read this book or had access to research about this topic. I definitely recommend this book!”

—Amazon Review

“I couldn’t put it down. This book is a revolution in mindful caring for girls. It tells us how to dispel our own mother/daughter myths and how to realize and support our girls in the recognition and celebration of their sexual selves to gain lifelong physical and mental happiness. This is the book I would recommend to all my mothers of girls and to all their doctors, teachers and therapists. I wish I had this book when I started in pediatric practice 20 years ago: from it I’ve learned that I missed so many opportunities to nurture my female patients as females growing into themselves. I love this book.”

—Barbara H. Landreth, M.D.,
Clinical Instructor in Pediatrics, Weill Cornell Medical College,
Pediatrician, The New York-Presbyterian Hospital

“What an amazing and insightful guide for mothers facing the huge challenge of supporting their daughters amidst the many “hate your body” media messages that assault all of us daily.”
—Judy Norsigian,
co-author of OUR BODIES, OURSELVES

“Your Daughter’s Bedroom is loaded with the kind of insight, wisdom, and practical advice that all mothers need to know to raise healthy daughters who are comfortable with their own sexuality. I highly recommend it!”
—Christiane Northrup, M.D., ob/gyn physician and author of the New York Times bestsellers:
WOMEN’S BODIES, WOMEN’S WISDOM and THE WISDOM OF MENOPAUSE”

“Using thousands of intimate interviews with women Joyce McFadden argues that –despite ourselves and inadvertently—sexism comes, in part, from the unhealthy messages we send our daughters about sex and behavior. A groundbreaking look at sexuality, mothers, daughters, and the myriad subtle ways one generation of women shapes the next.”
—Jennifer Baumgardner,
author of MANIFESTA, LOOK BOTH WAYS and ABORTION & LIFE

“In this important book Joyce McFadden shows how mothers affect their daughters’ sense of self through the sort of sexuality they model as well as their explicit communications and exhortations. It’s an honest, surprising and compelling look at this crucial contemporary dilemma.”
—Jessica Benjamin, Professor of Psychology,
New York University, author of THE BONDS OF LOVE

“An important book that gets at the heart of the mother and daughter bond and finally explodes the myth that women have to turn themselves into sexless Stepford wives to be good mothers. Expansive, honest, informed, and real.”
—Deborah Siegel, author of SISTERHOOD, INTERRUPTED “